Why "Real Talk" Works

Have you been told not to talk about family and life with your students? Have you been told not to talk about sports, video games, or music? My advice on this topic is to keep a balance. Sharing yourself with limits definitely has its benefits. Students like relating to their teachers; moreover, sharing your interests and who you are with students builds relationships. Everything today in education is about relationships. Discipline is struggling to survive in schools today. Being honest and authentic with students will help you develop rapport, and this will lead to a better managed class. Remember: often, students don’t like the subject matter; they like you, the person teaching it. When students like you, they like your class. They will try harder.

Do what you feel comfortable with. I have no problem talking about my two sons and the funny moments from the weekends. Giving advice to students relating to outside of the class is something I include also. This shows you care. Each class you have is different too. Some classes will become closer to you than others. The vibe may be different in each class. Not everyone is going to like you or the class. Sometimes that is hard to accept, but it is life. Some classes I share more of myself, and others, I choose not too. Just know your comfort level. Avoid anything that makes you sound like you're trying too hard to be cool, anything alcohol/smoking related, nightlife, and anything political. These are the boundaries that I follow. 

My role is like a dad in the classroom. Do I come off “fatherly” at times? Absolutely! We certainly do play roles in the classroom. So allow students to share themselves and don’t be afraid to share yourself. You will build a kinder and more inclusive classroom. Have fun teaching!


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